My sister has turned me into a Househelp – Working class lady cries out, seeks advice

Hi, Please I need an advice from u and your followers. I moved to Lagos, Nigeria last year March, and luckily for me, I got a job April of the same year.

I've been staying with my elder sister and her husband, as at when I joined them, they both were out of job and had a baby so the money I was supposed to rent a house with, I brought it out for feeding and upkeep of the house because my sister and mum opposed that I shouldn't get a place. Their reason is that men in Lagos do not take single ladies that live alone serious. I'm 30 years old while she's 32.


Luckly, in May of that same year, the husband got a job. My sister had a Nanny who they were supposed to pay 10k every month but the husband refused to pay till Dec last year until the girl said she wasn't staying anymore based on the fact that they do not pay her

The problem here is that my sister got a job that same December and has refused to send the girl her money as promised, I've talked to an extent. We almost got physical because of it.

Also since this girl left, she's not been able to get another maid cos she said she can't pay more than N10,000 per month and you know how much they pay Nanny in Lagos.

Now I've been turned to her maid. I wake up by 4:30 everyday, make sure I wash her baby's cloth and ours, sweep the house and sterilise the baby's plates, before going to work. Most times I leave the office early just to make sure I get home on time to assist her and I don't get stuck in traffic, still she's not satisfied. She keep on telling everyone that I do not help her and even her husband is complaining.


She earns N100,000 and her husband 130,000 while I earn N50,000, spend N1000 on transport everyday and send N15,000 home to my mother every month, still she's always coming to me in the name of her husband to borrow her money and if I refuse, she'll put up a fight that week.

The truth is that I'm fade up, I'm trying to save up money and get a place close to my work place without their knowledge. Although I'll tell them once I've gotten one
because I'm tired of her insulting and abusing me in the presence of her husband.

This is someone who is not in good terms with any of her Inlaws and now she's fighting her sister in the presence of her husband, after fighting with my mother when she came for omugwo and my kid brother when he came around. I really feel for her because vividly her husband will use it against her someday.

My main issue here is that in all these, she reports me to my mum and my mum knowing who she is, instead of hearing from both sides, will call and start lashing me on the phone. My mum even said that I want to destroy my sister's marriage. I'm seriously in pain.

These are people I can sacrifice everything for.  Is it because I lost my former job where I was earning more and I had to relocate to Lagos and  took a job of this amount just not to stay idle and assist my mum at home too? This is my only sister who is supposed to be my best friend and confidant. I'm really pained. I stay as a stranger in the house now.

I just need advice please.