Domestic Violence! Everyday New Trouble, By Adihuba Prince Chibueze (Legacy)

 So that was how we buried Mr. Obi. Gone so soon. He was a nice man, my friend, in whom I am well pleased. One of the best Software Engineers in the country. Mr Obi was an ICT guru, he bought his first car at the age of 19. He started designing websites at the age of 14.


Though he was a busy man, he still made out time and taught me certain programming languages, the lectures just kicked off few days to his death..Oh! My bad.

Few years ago, he said to me "Legacy, I wanna get married, I would have love to see you in the pictures as my best man but please, dignitaries are coming, help me put things in place...It's worth more to me than the "best manship''. I helped my guy, the wedding was just out of this world.... Dope!!!

It was hard for me to understand when I was told his wife shot him. Huh? These two were lover birds, how come? Cheating was never part of the numerous rumours spreading like wildfire. The more I tried to know, the less it seemed. Truly, he was killed by his wife. Few years marriage.
May his soul rest in peace, Amen.

Meanwhile, it was actually a long journey traveling back home after the burial, not just the distance but the trauma. A nice girl sitting next to me understood I was in low spirit, she cared and we had a long chat. My new friend, her name is Chika. To cut the story short, before I alighted, Chika equally told me a similar story about her neighbour who killed his wife recently. After the burial of the lady and her unborn baby, the wicked husband got arraigned, in fact he is serving jail term now. Their children are currently roaming the streets begging for food.

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE: Are we just gonna sit, keep our fingers crossed and wait for miracles to fix this?

Marriage is an integral part of human existence. And you know what? We can't stop talking about the first institution established by our Maker. No marriage, no life. its as simple as that.

1. The essence of going to school is to get knowledge on how to ride with life, school get us prepared to live a better and healthy life. Therefore, why then is it that this one thing that ensures continuation of life has not been given the much needed attention in our curriculum? The same curriculum that has some irrelevant contents, why can't we make amends? If the one thing that is giving all of us concern cannot find its way into our curriculum, is there any hope?

2. The last time I had a marriage course as a student was in my basic education stage, in a social studies class. Aside personal developments, that particular junior class lecture could be taken as the only thing I know about marriage. Now you can imagine the years apart, from my junior class to my university days, then to marriage. What makes one think, I have not forgotten every lesson I learnt? Marriage classes should be a continuous one for every class of students at all levels.

3. Students, Children, and adults, way before and after getting married should be made to know the "Causes, effects, and ways of overcoming domestic violence. The common causes of this menace are there, professionals do know them, hence teaching the people on how to go about it is very necessary.

4. Many have lost their lives, many ended handicapped, many ended depressed, most of the victims never knew what they could have done to avoid getting trapped in this mess.  Some weren't couples, boyfriends have killed girlfriends, vice versa. We can't keep our fingers crossed and be waiting for miracles to happen, let's do our bit. Fix this.

5. Churches should make marriage seem less spiritual, teach the people what they really need to know, don't teach only adults marital courses, educate the younger ones as well. Its better to catch them young. Everything isn't spiritual, open up to realities. Tell the kids what they are to do when they see their Dad hitting their mum or their mum messing up the poor man, with this, we can save many persons from untimely death.

6. Finally, marriage shouldn't be seen as a do or die affair, seek the face of God before getting into it, don't allow societal pressure to force you into this bond. Many ran into it, they ran out.

Thanks for your time.