Woman seeks public advice after her husband noticed she visited a native doctor for charms [Must read and big lesson for men]

A woman is seeking public advice after she visited a native doctor with her mother to stop her husband from visiting an unknown mistress. Unfortunately for them, his husband called when they were at the witch doctor's place and after their conversation, they didn't know the call wasn't ended before incantation began. The man heard everything they discussed with the native doctor and ran away with his kids before his wife could return home.

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I lived with my husband for 14 years, my marriage will be 16years this year.  In this 14years of marriage, it wasn't easy for me honestly.

He was a bank manger for 6 years before he started working with one Oil firm, and he is very quiet person. I am a nurse. I am the very jealous type and anybody who gets close to my husband must pass through me his wife. He too being on the quiet side allows me make decisions mostly, and he issues out the money when money is involved.

He trained my siblings in school and did a lot of things for my mother. Amongst all these, my husband has one fault, his problem is that he always try to please every one who comes to him for help, and because he is weak on that part, some ladies take that for granted. I honestly don't have a good mother, because if I did, she should have advised me to always complement him where he falls short and not go looking for solutions elsewhere.

What I lack was a good mother because mine ruined everything for me. It got to a time, when the marriage was 12 years, my husband fell into one single ladies hands and he started having an affair with her. I never saw both together but people kept telling me about them. He kept it secret, but he thought I never knew. He hid it from me and before I know it, he has rented a place for her and bought her a car. The lady who told me she saw my husband with the lady was my husband's cousin.

All these happened last two years 2015. I kept enduring until I couldn't bear it anymore because the woman started taking my time. I traced the lady, warned her to stay clear off my man, she and my husband practically denied seeing each other, that they are just business partners and all. I knew it was a lie because the inquiries I made traced them down to the hotel they do see each other, still he told me he normally use that hotel because it's is where he lodges his clients.

When I saw he isn't performing his duties on me anymore because all the time he keeps telling me he is tired from work and he can't make love to me till morning, I knew the lady has started draining him on that part and I spoke out to my mother. I know my husband loves sex a whole lot, so when he starts drifting, I came to the conclusion that someone, somewhere is eating deep into him on that part.

When I spoke to my mother, she asked me why it took me so long to bring this to her notice. I don't discuss things with my mother because she left my father when he has nothing and went away with a white man who came for contract and they both ended up marrying each other and she gave him a son, but today they are not living together again because my mum is a 'hand full'. So I kept such an information away from her, but because I have no one to confide in, I called my mother to tell her. So she said I shouldn't give space for such, that she gave space for such with her second husband and see where it has landed her, so I should tackle it now before it gets out of hands.

That her words scared me, I started fighting the lady,vsending my sisters to warn her, I never knew that all those my stupid acts was tearing my marriage apart. My husband kept warming and warning. His kind of person hardly talks and he loves me to the extent that if I tell him to leave the room at the middle of the night, he goes to the sitting room and sleep for peace to reign. I thought I have won. The one that got e was the car part.

The lady was seen driving a jeep, so someone told me that such a lady can't afford the car, that my husband must have bought it, I believed immediately without making inquiries. I jumped into conclusion, started cursing my husband, going to his parents house to complain to them. His father said why am I making noise, that if his son want to re marry, he has free access to do that. It was even his mother that said something reasonable.

I felt the world was closing in on me. My mother was the only person who I can comfortably talk to. So when she saw how tensed I am, she told me to give her two days, that she will call me back. So after that two days, because of my sleepless night, I wasn't able to wait for the day to break, I called my mother. She asked me to come over to her house. I did, she told me to allow her dress up that she will pick her friend on the way, who will take us somewhere. So when we left,  her friend took us to a herbalist home. So the man said I should explain what i want him to do for me.

I was scared but my mother hit my hand, saying I should speak up, that I should not be scared. I told the man, that i want to have control over my husband and no woman should go after him at all, and he should turn his face away from that lady. He first asked me to get his sperm, I told him it will be hard for me because he hardly make love to me these days, so he asked me to get my husband inner wears and some other things, the next time we are coming. After that day, we scheduled to see another day, just me and my mother, the friend didn't go with us again.

I brought the items on our next visit, so me and my mother went back. As the man was doing some incantations, my phone rang and it was my husband, so I lied to him that I went to see my mother who called that she was sick. He demanded to speak with my mum, and I gave my mother the phone, not knowing that after my mother did not end the call after speaking with him. Instead, she dropped the phone on her lap.

My husband practically heard all we and the man discussed. Everything, even when he was doing some incantations with my his name and the rest.

He was even with his friends and recorded some things which were faint thought but audible to the hearing of everyone. Even the man gave me one oil to rub and meet my husband that after that, he will not have erections again.

I came home, he wasn't there, my kids who were on school break weren't at home.  I called him but he told me he traveled to the East to see his mother with the kids. I asked why he took such hasty decision without letting me know.

Travelling all of a sudden in the afternoon, I was like, why so impromptu. But I later noticed they were at his friends place for some days before he moved the kids to his sisters place and came to meet me after one week.

Before then, I told him I want to come meet them, he said he is coming home,  that the kids will stay till a week to their resumption, that I should take care of my sick mother.

To my greatest surprise, he came after two days with policemen to take his things and leave, I asked him what is going on? He said I should live in the house, take everything and feel free to come visit the kids, but he isn't interested in the marriage anymore.

I was shocked before he played that audio for me, asking me, is this what I have reduced myself to? I didn't even know what to say, called my mother, she too was speechless. I quickly disposed all the herbalist gave me .

To cut my story short, I don't even know, the shame of looking at my children, but shockingly their father hasn't told them what happened. When he asked the driver to bring them to a fast food to see me, they  asked why me and their father are apart. When I asked them what their daddy told them, they said their daddy told them that it's good for children to remain in a peaceful environment than a quarrelsome home, that can't they see him and their mother quarrel a lot ?

 I'm afraid that one day they will hear it, just mere taught of that makes me numb. Their father don't even want to see me in life again.

Since two years we separated, he hasn't set his eyes on me. I don't even have his number, it was the house phone that he made accessible to me, where I can speak with my children and tell them when I will come . I am so surprised he isn't re-married yet. I have 2 boys, 2 girls. I am 43years, my husband is 51 years.

 I'm writing to see if there is any advice I can get at all, I was moved to share my own story. Why my husband hasn't divorced me is what scares me. I live alone in this whole house, now he has bought another house so the children told me, because they were living with his sister before.

My worry is why has he not divorced me properly. What's his plans? I don't know. Will he ever forgive me? Is their anything I can do to appease him in this situation? I am just living alone, no more a happy woman. I cook and eat alone. I really need help to know what I can do. I have cut all ties with my mother, for a year and 9 months, I haven't visited or spoken to her.

I have been praying to God to help me find a solution because people who heard our story keep a distance from me. One of my friend suggest I sell the house and go buy a bungalow where people don't know me much, I am confused.



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