Opinion On DNA Test For Married Men.

As written by Tony Osborg

Some years ago and as an undergraduate student, I published an article in which I argued that the whole concept of marriage is a violation of the natural law of individual freedom and that for peace to reign in future (today) marriages, the rules for marriage must be amended and the understanding of 'infidelity' or 'adultery' must be reviewed to be more liberal than it currently is.

My point was that 'promiscuity' (this includes adultery) is a natural trait of humanity. The success or failure (collapse) of marriages should therefore not be based on infidelity alone but on a combination of factors which the couples themselves should have agreed upon during their marriage contract. The modern concept of marriages tend to suppress this reality rather than manage it. Marriage should not force people to become hypocrites like it has become.

I therefore made the following recommendations.

1. There should be no general template agreement for marriage. No two intending couples should use the same marriage agreement template. You and your intending wife alone should sit down and decide what your marriage contract should look like.

2. Couples who believe they cannot be faithful in marriage should be free to strike out the 'infidelity' clause from their marriage contract. As long as they both agree, they can proceed.

3. Couples themselves, and not the state, should decide what the punishment should be if a partner breaches any section of the marriage contract. The state should be called upon to enforce the terms when the need arises.

4. No marriage contract clause should contain 'till death do us part' and as such marriages should be reviewed from time to time and people should be free to walk away in the same way they walked in if the vision is no longer mutual.

5. If a woman permits her intending husband to cheat because she feels it is in his nature to cheat but locks herself up to remain 'faithful' for ever and she later finds out (during the marriage) that 'everlasting faithfulness' is incompatible with her nature, that is her cup of tea. The punishment for her shortsightedness should be contained in the marriage. Every partner should be equal in marriage, like in punishment. Do not allow love blind you into making your marriage contract favorable to the man and unfavorable to you as a woman.

In summary, since I argued and defined marriage as the legalization of potential hypocrisy, it is important for the rules to be as flexible as possible and the punishment for a breach as light as possible.

What does your marriage contract say about infidelity? If your marriage contract gives room for forgiveness, then ask for it and manage the crisis.

Make sure you get your marriage contract and rules right, and yes, that is still not a guarantee that the marriage will not fail.

If you cannot be faithful,  don't enter the contract. If you are unfaithful and you are caught through a DNA test, dance to the music.

Anyway, the father of a child is not just in the blood but in duty and responsibility. Duty and responsibility is the true DNA.