Is my Husband a weakling? Woman needs advice about her husband who solely depends on his elder sister to make a living

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I need solutions to my problem, help me post this, I will be reading comments. Me and my husband lives in his sisters house. She is my husbands senior with 8years. They are three girls and two boys, his senior brother is married to a white woman and his two junior sister, one is married ,living in Abuja and the other is not yet married, but she is a medical doctor living abroad. We live at their boys quarters ( 4 bedroom apartment). The sister and the husband lives in the main duplex.

The way they behave to us isn't even bothering my husband at all. In Fact he sees it as nothing, the worse part is that my husband lost his job, and the sister told my husband to come and work in her husband sachet water company and he is also into automobile parts  as their accountant to pay him 125k, he does not have a moment of rest at all. He has been with them close to 5 years now. From 85k to 125k now. Anytime they call him the way he jumps out as if they are god.

The school I want my children to attend isn't the school they are attending . The sister registered my children and hers in one Montessori school, I know she is the one paying the fees, but whenever I go to that school, I feel so inferior, not my class. Going for parents meeting, the caliber of people there and the rest.

Not even that is the main thing, she buys my husband clothes as if he can't shop for himself, and the way my husband smiles when he sees her shop for him makes me ask myself, is this man or weakling or what ?

During Easter, he couldn't give me money, saying his sister killed a ram, went over and brought a bowl of meat, saying I should put it in the freezer, that we will eat over at his sisters place. Sometimes if my sister in laws husband wants to go out, he won't like to use his driver but will like my husband to drive him.

Their mother too comes for weekend sometimes to my sister in laws place and all she does is to stay in her sitting room, not even crossing our side till she wants to go, my husband is the person going to see her with the children.

If my mother comes, my mother will walk to their place and greet them, even though she buys her wrapper and send her driver to drop her off, but my worry is for her to allow my husband do things himself . Last three weeks,I told my husband I want to stuff our house, he told me he will give me money, on The following Thursday, the sisters drivers parked at my place off loaded some items and a bag of rice, saying my sister inlaw said he should give these things to me. It has always been like this, even she doesn't buy all we need, if I tell my husband, he will tell me to manage it that way.

Sometimes her nanny will cook and send us soup, I am not free to handle my house. My husband giving me money is when any of my family members plan coming to spend sometime with us, that is when he brings out Money for food, or I plan making my hair. Some days he will come back from work, enters his sisters house and they will serve him food and if he gets to our quarters he will ask me not to worry that he has eaten.

I don't even understand where I stand in all these. She knows I am not working, but she employs other people. I have told her I want to work, but she just nodded and that was all. Last week she employed a new admin, and when my husband told me about that , I felt so terrible.

I just felt because I came from a nobodies home, they don't value me at all. I complained to my husband and he told me to stop worrying about what doesn't make sense, I asked him for how long will his sister control him and what happens in his house? He walked out on me. I am feeling so terrible. I have 3 kids. 8 years of marriage . I am 38 years and my husband is 42years .

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